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Post by (LK) on Mar 11, 2004 17:32:41 GMT -5
Haha, not really the real topic is Do you think you should just give up getting over a girl if you are unable to find another? Why or why not or Is finding another girl the best method to get over the one before? Why or why not
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Post by Static Burn on Mar 11, 2004 22:20:33 GMT -5
I don't find getting over a girl that hard, even if there is no other at the moment. And, it is possible to be into more than one girl at once, so I don't think finding another girl is necessarily the best solution.
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Post by (LK) on Mar 11, 2004 22:31:29 GMT -5
well then what would be ? Heh, had you fooled there huh?
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Post by SuperBassX84 on Mar 11, 2004 23:01:53 GMT -5
In my experience, the only thing that gets you over a girl is time. The reason most guys look for another girl is because that girl distracts them until the time they are over the first one. It doesn't stop the hurting or speed it along, it makes you forget it's there. Fun, no?
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Post by MM on Mar 11, 2004 23:56:20 GMT -5
hmm... It's been a year and a half.. So i'll just put in some more time into it
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Post by devo2 on Mar 12, 2004 1:46:40 GMT -5
look, you'll never stop missing old flames. It's not like the memory just disappears one day. The memories will always be there, and the sadness to some extent as well. What rights the ship is that one day you realize that you can and must go on with your life, and then the other parts of your life start to fill the void.
And a new girl never "replaces" the old one. That's not to say that you can't fall as hard for the new one, just that you won't fall in quite the same way. I have an ex from about 8 years ago that I still miss like hell all the time, but it doesn't destroy my existence or anything. I love the woman I'm with now with all my heart and then some, and given the choice of the two I'd take her over the old any day, but she'll never make the memories or the hurt of the ex go away. And she knows not to try, and I do the same for her. It's life. If you don't hurt every now and again, how do you recognize and appreciate the joys?
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Post by (LK) on Mar 12, 2004 2:15:05 GMT -5
the pain is one thing, but the frustration is what really pisses me off, every time i find a way to "move on" or something it blows up in my face, kinda like when you put a soda can in the freezer and then take it out after a few hours.
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Post by SuperBassX84 on Mar 12, 2004 2:40:08 GMT -5
Wow.
50 pts. for Devo for being the freakin' man.
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Post by DarkAngel on Mar 12, 2004 12:49:18 GMT -5
Wow, Devo that was deep
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Post by Static Burn on Mar 12, 2004 15:30:24 GMT -5
Honestly, I don't feel anywhere near the way Devo does.
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Post by (LK) on Mar 12, 2004 16:33:23 GMT -5
who said you did static
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Post by redorblue01 on Mar 12, 2004 17:16:20 GMT -5
Deep stuff Devo but I can't say I can realate.
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Post by (LK) on Mar 12, 2004 17:35:28 GMT -5
you've been through alot, huh devo?
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Post by devo2 on Mar 12, 2004 19:53:13 GMT -5
nah, not nearly as much as others. Static- I understand and appreciate that everybody doesn't feel the way I do. In a way, it's good, because we're all different, and our views on love are a testament to that. We're shaped by our experiences to a certain degree. It's a personal matter I suppose. Different for everybody. Like...umm...snowflakes. I just figure that if we throw enough different ideas at LK he's bound to glean some hope from one of them And I'll be the first to admit that the concept of love was different for me 10 years ago than it is for me today. Not better or worse, just different. So I am probably of a different mind because I have had some time to detatch myself from some bad experiences I had in High School and my early college years. Time to either grow ignorant and foolish all over again or gain some perspective, one or the other. Not quite sure which. Depends on how good things turn out I guess.
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Post by Elfie on Mar 12, 2004 20:03:17 GMT -5
I must say, glean is an excellent word. In addition, I'm beginning to think Devo might be someone I should look up to for question resolving tips. He seems to know what he's doing.
On another note, my school was all boys until grade 7, and at the end of 8 grade I fell hard for this girl. The situation became quite interesting. We're really close friends, she flirts with me on a regular basis and she knows I like her, but she would never go out with me. Kind of frusturating, really.
Anyway, that's the really abridged version of the story, and is also why I'm not much help here, because I'm not ready to give up quite yet considering how well we get along.
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Post by devo2 on Mar 12, 2004 20:06:28 GMT -5
ah, the classic "tweener". Those are mildly frustrating. Gives you enough hope to stick around and expend time and effort, but not enough to be content with.
Hey Elfie, did you get the email I sent on the USAP?
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Post by Elfie on Mar 12, 2004 20:10:12 GMT -5
Haha, yeah. I'd like to think its harder than that to categorize, but that's essentially it. She talks to me nightly on MSN and she used to complain to me about her boyfriend who was also my best friend, while knowing that I liked her. A lot of awkward situations arose from that. Whatever though, at the end of the day I don't think I'll look back on it and say it was wasted time because I've had some fun. I just wish things were a little different.
EDIT: About the AP thing. The book I have right now is "The American Journey: A History of the United States". Its much dryer (drier?) than the first, but more inDepth as well.
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Post by Static Burn on Mar 12, 2004 23:05:04 GMT -5
Yea, generally, the way I go
1) Notice girl, start liking her 2) Gradually become more friendly with girl 3) Get the feeling that girl is blowing me off 4) Get pissed off at girl 5) Anger subsides, but girl becomes unliked 6) Repeat
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Post by (LK) on Mar 12, 2004 23:08:40 GMT -5
Does that happen alot to you? I think if you got rid of number 3 everything might work out, but what do i know
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Post by Static Burn on Mar 12, 2004 23:10:02 GMT -5
So instead of getting mad at girl because I feel like she's blowing me off I should get mad at her for no apparent reason?
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